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• 06-29-2008 11:38 PM

  willowchow Joined on 09-10-2007 Posts 6,164 Points 300

  I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact My friend and co worker called me tonight crying.  She had taken her 13 year old daughter to the beach today for a fun day because it was her birthday.  The kids were swimming in the water--which is the ocean--and the current pulled her daughter out and under.  It's so horrible.  But, she was deprived of oxygen for too long.  She's brain dead.  My friend's family is coming up from NY tonight and I'll get more info later or tomorrow.  Can you guys please say a prayer? My friend, her mom, is very religious so I know she'd appreciate them right now.  She was 13--how do you recover from something like this??  I can't imagine.  Thanks. Lori

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• 06-29-2008 11:44 PM

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  janetmichel3009 Joined on 11-28-2006 Beijing, China Posts 2,274 Points 370	Re: I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact oh my god! that is so horrible! i'll keep them in my thoughts! Janet
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• 06-29-2008 11:50 PM

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  Bonita of Bwana Joined on 09-14-2007 Posts 1,559 Points 4,410

  Re: I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact Lori of course we will ay prayers for her and There i s a gentle candle glowing on my mantle to celebrate the life this young girl had. Rip Tides are horribly scary I have been caight in one. Luckly for me I had a brightly colored float and was able to wave to some guys on a ski doo I can not begin to know her sorrow,  But we will pray for her to find some peace Bonita of Bwana Bonita of Bwana AKC Rhodesian Ridgebacks Champions, Therapy Dogs and Awesome Companions

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• 06-30-2008 12:14 AM

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  BEVOLASVEGAS Joined on 07-11-2006 Texas Posts 3,991 Points 610

  Re: I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact I'm sending up a prayer for your friend, Lori.  I cannot imagine what she is going through right now.  Stay strong for her, Lori.  She's going to need a good friend to help her through this horrible time. Amanda "Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, throughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming --- ' WOW, WHAT A RIDE!!!! ' " - Author Unknown

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• 06-30-2008 12:17 AM

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  keedokes Joined on 04-05-2006 SE Wisconsin, USA Posts 798 Points 115	Re: I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact There are literally no words to describe how hearing this is making me feel.  Your friend and her daughter and their family are deeply within my thoughts tonight.  I hope and pray that there is still hope for a full life for that young girl--that brain function returns. Jessica
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• 06-30-2008 1:47 AM

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  willowchow Joined on 09-10-2007 Posts 6,164 Points 300

  Re: I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact Thank you guys.  I'm having a hard time sleeping tonight.  I got a call and the update is that a neurology resident checked her out and she had a CT scan.  There is some brain function still there!  Thank God.  But, she's having seizure after seizure even heavily sedated.  They are trying to stop the seizures with medication but so far it's not really helping.  It's still not really looking all that good for her.  They are telling my friend that they need to wait and see if there is any swelling over the next 24 hours or so.  She's still in a lot of danger.  I've been reading online about brain injury and oxygen deprivation from near drowning--I'm trying to find something to give her some hope.  But, reality is this girl might come out of it, she might live but be brain damaged or she could still die over the next couple of days.  She was turning 14 this weekend.  I was trying to get more info from my friend but as you can imagine she's just beside herself. But, thank you all so much for your thoughts and prayers.  I'm in shock myself I can't imagine how my friend and her family feel.  It's something I can't understand not having children myself.

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• 06-30-2008 2:19 AM

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  cat0 Joined on 10-05-2007 California Posts 253 Points 45	Re: I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact How sad.  My prayers for her and her family.
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• 06-30-2008 2:42 AM

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  willowchow Joined on 09-10-2007 Posts 6,164 Points 300	Re: I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact Thank you!
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• 06-30-2008 6:36 AM

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  marty_ga Joined on 09-10-2007 Georgia Posts 2,071 Points 210	Re: I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact  My prayers are with them and my candle lit.  No parent should have to go through this, and I can't imagine having to.  Praying for recovery for this young girl....
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• 06-30-2008 6:56 AM

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  sl2crmeg Joined on 10-08-2006 New Smyrna Beach, FL Posts 2,393 Points 245	Re: I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact Oh dear, how sad. I hope things are looking less bleak this morning. Her family is certainly in my thoughts.
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• 06-30-2008 7:26 AM

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  willowchow Joined on 09-10-2007 Posts 6,164 Points 300	Re: I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact Thank you guys!!
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• 06-30-2008 7:47 AM

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  auburn2932 Joined on 09-13-2007 Camp Hill, PA Posts 304 Points 35	Re: I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact May God Bless and look after that family, I am so sad for them.  My prayers are with them.  Stay strong for your co-worker.  Hugs for all from Bonnie and me. Bonnie Blue Belle April - Feb. 2, 2000 - Dec. 11 - 2007 If tears could build a stairway And memories a lane I'd walk right up to Heaven And bring you home again.
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• 06-30-2008 7:51 AM

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  snownose Joined on 09-29-2006 Michigan to Southeast Posts 5,178 Points 405	Re: I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact What a heartbreaking situation........my prayers are with the family......
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• 06-30-2008 8:04 AM

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  mrv Joined on 09-10-2007 west central OH Posts 2,662 Points 745

  Re: I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact I know she is not ready now,  but I have used this group for friends and clients.  I have always heard very positive things about the help received.  http://www.compassionatefriends.org/  (my apologies, I had not read the update). As to the brain trauma, the most difficult issue will be the fact she will not be the same person after she recovers. Preparation for the rehab period and strategies for dealing with the emotional challenges will be critical,  One of the toughest things involved the fact many memories are intact, so the person is aware they are different and have an understanding of what has been lost.  http://www.headinjury.com/linktbisup.htm Prayers for acceptance on the way.

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• 06-30-2008 9:44 AM

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  BlackLabbie Joined on 01-28-2008 South of Boston Posts 988 Points 170	Re: I'm not sure where to begin Reply Contact I will defiantly be keeping your friend's daughter and family in my thoughts and prayers.
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